A Message to All Potential Applicants for Companionship with Quaheem & Other Miscellaneous thoughts..

In this day and age everyone is so quick to jump into a "companionship" situation with someone without necessarily informing the involved party of the things that must be in place before the "relationship" can proceed into BLISS....

So for the sake of openess here are 7 things that an interested party should know about what I demand: (In no particular order)

(1) This person must be pursuing some kind of tangible goal (preferabley educational, but this is negoitable)...Nothin more UNATTRACTIVE than someone sitting on their ass all day "wondering" instead of doing...GET UP, GET OUT, and DO SOMETHING!!!

(2) This person must, and I repeat, MUST have good hygene. One's body is not a DIFFICULT thing to maintain properly. BRUSH your teeth...WASH your body...CLEAN your fingernails...Keep your HAIR cut...IRON your clothes..USE DEODORANT!!!! It's not hard!!

(3) You must have some kind of spiritual grounding. I didn't say RELIGIOUS (as in religion as a social institution) but SPIRITUAL. Do you believe that there is a creator? Do you believe that there are forces in the universe that transcend our human reality and can positively effect that reality? As open minded as I am I don't think I could wake up next to an Atheiest every morning and get the spiritual nourishment that I desire from a mate...(But I certainly respect their right to believe what they do)

(4) Consistency...Show up when you say you are going to show up. Call when you say you are going to call. KEEP YOUR WORD...Consistency is a a prime predictor of a person's dedication to someone or something....If you can be dedicated...then maybe I can TRUST you...

(5) Must have some reasonable informed cultural and political views. If I talk to you about the War in Iraq and cannot get the same level of awareness and excitement out of you as I do when we talk about Ciara's new video on BET then that is a problem...

(6) If you think being on the "DL" means that you have to be outrightly paranoid and quasi-schizophrenic about any and everything that either IS homosexual or is characterized as homosexual then you need to do some work on yourself before you come see me....CALM DOWN...there is a comfortable seat in the closet for you.

(7) If at this point in your life you cannot fit the word "monogamy" into your vocabulary...Quaheem ain't the one for you...I DON'T SHARE!

And a couple of items on a miscellaneous note:

--This humidy needs to stop....besides not having air conditioning..the heat makes me horny...since I am single and horny it makes me a tad bit annoyed..So to all the people who have gotten then less friendlier side of me I apologize...chalk it up to heat + hormones...

--I am feeling this haircut I got...I tried somethin new...a low fade...Besides makin me look older I do think it makes my head look even BIGGER (I can only wear size 8 fitted hats)...

--Thank you to my buddy from DC who has been a constant positive source of energy. Thank you also for the Birthday invitation to Martha's Vineyard...Sorry I couldn't accept..and I told you why...Let's aim for the same time next year...no matter where we are...I should be doing much better than I am currently...*winks*

--And yes, my birthday is approaching..August 2nd...This will be my 24th year on God's wonderfully chaotic project called EARTH. So all types of gifts will be considered and accepted...*smiles*...

PeaceLoveandEternity...

Quaheem